Thanks for your prompt reply to my questions. I was having a tough time and asking my last question was maybe the catalyst to feeling better, because I feel better now:) I realize that STIs are common. I hid behind that fact for a long time and didn't feel bad about not telling partners. I then realized that if a wart or blister appears on me , I'd have to tell the truth (rather tell before we were intimate). or lie and act like it was my first episode (also not a healthy option). If she got something, then I have to tell the truth (and get my ass dumped quick) or lie and help her through it (no thanks).So yah, basically have to tell them before we get intimate. I'm not looking forward to repeating the long process of going on 10 dates until I feel she may like me enough to think being with me will be worth possibly catching (more) STis. I've already done this twice and it sucks when they back off:( I guess one thing that might help is finding a way for potential girlfriends to have their questions answered. I guess I could get them to chat with you, eh? Are there any support services available? I heard there' s a dating website for people with STIs - know anything about it? Are there drugs or vaccines my partners could take that would prevent infection? I know there are some for warts... Are there drugs yet that can prevent me from passing infections? You mentioned support groups and therapists; could you provide names of some near downtown Vancouver or a way to find them? Thanks again for your help and for making this service available:)

Home / Answered Questions / Thanks for your prompt reply to my questions. I was having a tough time and asking my last question was maybe the catalyst to feeling better, because I feel better now:) I realize that STIs are common. I hid behind that fact for a long time and didn’t feel bad about not telling partners. I then realized that if a wart or blister appears on me , I’d have to tell the truth (rather tell before we were intimate). or lie and act like it was my first episode (also not a healthy option). If she got something, then I have to tell the truth (and get my ass dumped quick) or lie and help her through it (no thanks).So yah, basically have to tell them before we get intimate. I’m not looking forward to repeating the long process of going on 10 dates until I feel she may like me enough to think being with me will be worth possibly catching (more) STis. I’ve already done this twice and it sucks when they back off:( I guess one thing that might help is finding a way for potential girlfriends to have their questions answered. I guess I could get them to chat with you, eh? Are there any support services available? I heard there’ s a dating website for people with STIs – know anything about it? Are there drugs or vaccines my partners could take that would prevent infection? I know there are some for warts… Are there drugs yet that can prevent me from passing infections? You mentioned support groups and therapists; could you provide names of some near downtown Vancouver or a way to find them? Thanks again for your help and for making this service available:)

Thanks for your prompt reply to my questions. I was having a tough time and asking my last question was maybe the catalyst to feeling better, because I feel better now:)I realize that STIs are common. I hid behind that fact for a long time and didn’t feel bad about not telling partners. I then realized that if a wart or blister appears on me , I’d have to tell the truth (rather tell before we were intimate). or lie and act like it was my first episode (also not a healthy option). If she got something, then I have to tell the truth (and get my ass dumped quick) or lie and help her through it (no thanks).So yah, basically have to tell them before we get intimate.I’m not looking forward to repeating the long process of going on 10 dates until I feel she may like me enough to think being with me will be worth possibly catching (more) STis. I’ve already done this twice and it sucks when they back off:(I guess one thing that might help is finding a way for potential girlfriends to have their questions answered. I guess I could get them to chat with you, eh? Are there any support services available? I heard there’ s a dating website for people with STIs – know anything about it? Are there drugs or vaccines my partners could take that would prevent infection? I know there are some for warts… Are there drugs yet that can prevent me from passing infections? You mentioned support groups and therapists; could you provide names of some near downtown Vancouver or a way to find them?Thanks again for your help and for making this service available:)

It is good to hear that you are feeling better.

If your partners have any questions you can certainly direct them our way. People have the option of asking a private or public question, or chat with a nurse. If your partners would prefer to talk on the phone or in person, we can help them find the best place given their concerns.

We are not aware of a dating site, but there are social and support groups in the Vancouver area for people with herpes and HPV. They describe themselves this way:
“While we are not a dating site, in the context of our social activities people do meet others that they may wish to date.”

Right now, there are no drugs or vaccines your partner can to take to prevent herpes, but there is a vaccine for some types of HPV. It is a good idea to talk to a healthcare provider to make the best decision about the HPV vaccine. ImmunizeBC is a good resource and you can also chat with a nurse who specializes in this area.

Antiviral medications, taken every day, can lower chance of passing on herpes. It called daily suppressive therapy. If you use the medication, along with avoiding sex during an outbreak and always using condoms, the chance of passing on the virus is much lower.

For counsellors you can check out:

The BC Psychological Association

The BC Association of Clinical Counsellors

Please leave a comment to let us know if this answers your question or if you need more information.

Health Nurse

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This answer was posted on March 12, 2013.

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