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Hi and thanks for your thoughts and resources on this... I am 47 and have been put on a waitlist for surgery to repair my organ prolapses that remain after my last vaginal birth (13 years ago). After trying pelvic physio, pessary etc, I was unable to find any other solution to address the incontinence and get active again. (Pelvic physiotherapist cautioned against running, or other high impact exercise because it shakes down everything in my vagina...it also feels awful because I can feel all...
Hi I have been able to speak with our doctor’s at our main STI clinic and can provide a brief summary of what they have suggested. You are correct this type of surgical procedure you are looking at does carry some risk in regard to how it may change your sexual functioning in the future. I have been able to look at some research papers in regard to this and currently they believe 5 to 20 % of... Read Full Answer
I am married my wife not interest sex how to self sex pls help me
Hi, Thanks for writing. Every person’s desire for sex is different, and it can also change over the course of one’s lifetime. Sex drive can also be affected by health conditions, and stress. Talking to your wife about her health, mental health, and stress may be a good idea. In terms of having sex by yourself, there are lots of ways to have pleasure on your own. As a starting point, have a... Read Full Answer
I'm a virgin but I am really interested in learning how to self pleasure myself. I can already reach orgasm by rubbing my legs together but I want to experiment with fingering but I have never experienced penetration before and I am really nervous I will hurt myself since I don't know what I am doing. Is it supposed to hurt because it is my first time and how should I go about doing it. Also, is coconut oil a good lubricant for masturbating or will it give me infections - is it possible to get...
Hi, Thanks for your question. Learning about self-pleasure is important, and it’s a great that you want to know about it! Betty Dodson is sexologist and author and she has created a lot of great resources to help people learn about self-pleasure and orgasms. She has an entire book dedicated to the subject called “Sex for One: The Joy of Self-Loving” which may be worth checking out! Betty also... Read Full Answer
Hi, I have a question about masturbation. I've recently tried to start fingering myself for the first time in my life and my finger doesn't go in all the way or its really tough to. I am still a virgin so I don't know if this is because my hymen is still in tact or if there is something wrong with my girl parts down there.. I live in Vancouver so I wanted to come into a clinic to maybe get a physical exam by one of the nurses just to check and see if everything is normal. But I am extremely...
Hi I would recommend making an appointment at our provincial STI clinic just click here for information on the clinic and how to make an appointment. The nurses that work at this clinic are experienced in sexual health matters and you can discuss topics about sexual health, masturbation, genitals etc.… You could also discuss the exam with the nurse you see, just let them know what you are... Read Full Answer
i'm not sure if i've ever had an orgasm or climaxed. is that normal?
Hi Yes, it is normal for people not to have an orgasm. There is a small amount of people who have never been able to have an orgasm. Most people can have an orgasm it just takes a bit of exploration to find out where and what type of touch works for you. Everyone is different. Unfortunately there is a lot of shame and guilt around sex and masturbation in our society but masturbation is a... Read Full Answer