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My girlfriend and I are in an open relationship. We are fluid bonded (we only have unprotected sex with each other). Recently, she has been experiencing pain during and after sex, despite ample lubrication. Occasionally, after sex, she has shooting pain inside and in her lower back. This does not happen when she has protected sex with other partners. We have both been tested and are STI free. What could cause this and what solutions could there be, other than us wearing condoms?
Hi, thanks for your question. It may be a simple difference of positioning with different partners. When a woman is underneath with legs bent back for deep penetration then there is a lot of contact with the cervix and a lot of pressure on her lower back. However, it’s important your partner consider seeing a doctor for a medical assessment about these symptoms. Testing... Read Full Answer
I am 21 years old, and for as long as I can remember I have been terrified of inserting things inside my vagina. I have never had sex, used a tampon or even been able to insert a finger because I'm afraid it will hurt so bad. Is there any way for me to get over this fear and do I need counselling of some sort to get past this. I did some research and discovered a condition called vaginismus and I think I may have it?
Hi Vaginismus is when a woman gets involuntary tightening of the muscles around the vagina whenever penetration is attempted. This can make it painful to insert anything into the vagina and very frustrating for the person mentally. Vaginismus is common and can be treated. There are a number of different reasons why this can happen e.g. past experiences, physical conditions, psychological... Read Full Answer
What can I do for premature ejackulation?
Hi Premature ejaculation can be a common concern for men. Our service specialises in sexually transmitted infections (STI), so we do not have expertise in this area. It can be difficult to give suggestions over the internet for this concern as a health professional would need to take many different factors into consideration. For example person’s age, how long does sex last, medical history,... Read Full Answer
I'm having a hard time reconciling the fact that I have herpes and genital warts (not the cervical-cancer causing type) with my desire to meet someone and fall in love. The guilt of having sex without telling partners about my STIs is becoming unbearable. I realize I should just keep trying until I find someone who is OK with my STIs, but what are the odds of that happening? Are there drugs yet that can prevent me from passing infections? Can I talk with someone about this on the phone...
Hi It sounds like you are going through a hard time at the moment. It may help to know that there are many people in your situation who are able to have a fulfilling sex and love life. There is a lot of social stigma around sexually transmitted infections (STI) like genital herpes and warts. It often leads to negative experiences or rejection, even though the stigma does not make much sense.... Read Full Answer
I can't use condoms because they kill my erection. Any ideas?
Hi. This is an issue for many men, and it can be problem when you want or need to use condoms. There are a few things you can try. You can start by trying to link condom use with pleasure. One way to do this is by masturbating with a condom on when you are alone. You can also try masturbating until you are close to ejaculation, and then putting a condom on. Sometimes it helps to have a... Read Full Answer