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hey I am from Bangladesh.Have some stupid mistakes in my life and I Am paying heavily for this Episode. #1 October 29,2014 I had protected vaginal sex With a female csw.I also french kissed Her.Later found the girl HIV +.After 5 weeks I Experienced severe flue type illness.Swollen Lymph nodes under jaw and neck, loose Stool, hedeach,severe muscle and joint Pain,rash on both arm. I have tested after 3 Months with 3rd generation rapid test,after 5 Months with 3rd generation elisa, after 6.5 Months with 3rd generation rapid test.All areNegative. Episode #2 November 17 2015 I Was with a female csw.. We were fully Naked.The girl offered me to have Unprotected sex with her.As far as I can Recall I didn't penetrate the girl but my penis Came close to her vagina.Now my mind says If I penetrated the girl without my knowing Though I didn't feel anything. Episode #3 July 16 2017 I had protected oral and protected Vaginal sex with a female csw.Dont know Why? Vaginal part only lasted 10-15 Seconds.The girl seemed a consistent Condom user.No real symptom aftee 1-4 Weeks. Episode 4 # October 17 2017 I had Protected vaginal sex with a csw.She offered Me to have sex without a condom for extra Charge.But she assured me she gets tested Every month. Now you are thinking what's the Real problemActually Im experiencing the Symptom of overt aids.Lose of appetite,Losing Weight,fatigue, dizziness ,swollen lymph Nodes,loose stool,stomach upset,nailFungus,clubbing nail and slight dementia are Making my life hell. I Don't know what to do? Everybody says I didn't learn from my first mistake.So,I have to face the consequence.I am feeling hopeless.I have nobody whom I can share with the situation. I haven't tested for second third and fourth exposure.

Hi

It seems like there are a couple of things going on for you.

The first one seems like you are concerned that something like HIV may have been passed to you. You’re covered for episode #1 as your test was done at least 3 months after you had sex. This would have given you an accurate result and HIV was not passed to you. With episode #2 to #4 your HIV risk would be low as you used a condom for the sex that you had. Even if the risk is low it can still cause a lot of stress especially when you get symptoms you are worried about. As the last episode happened in Oct 2017 a HIV test done today would give you an accurate result. The symptoms that someone can get when HIV is first passed to them can be caused by many different conditions; the only way to find out if HIV is causing the symptoms is by doing a HIV test. 

It would be good to find a place that does HIV testing and also offers support, you could discuss your situation with them and they may be able to help you with a decision about testing. In Canada we have good services that provide HIV testing as well as personal counselling to help people with these types of situations.

The other item seems to be that you’re doing something that you regret doing after it has happened. If you were in Canada I would suggest talking to a counsellor about this, I am unsure of what services you have available in your country to access. It is common for us to see this happen around sex at our clinic and the solutions are different for each person, as it really depends on what is causing someone to have this conflict. For example I have seen people who get drunk and then feel really horny and then doing something they regret. I have also seen people who may feel really lonely or stressed want to have sex that they then regret, but at the time it was something that was helping with their feeling of loneliness and stress. I have seen people who just enjoy having sex but then feel really bad as it goes against a value they may have. Everyone is different and a counsellor can help people resolve this.

Let us know if this does not answer your question or if you have any more questions or concerns.   

Health Nurse

This answer was posted on July 19, 2018

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