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In the years since SmartSexResource launched, we have developed a library of questions asked by you, and answered by our expert sexual health nurses.

Our answered questions library cover a broad range of sexual health topics and common questions we hear at our clinics.

Pleasure (13)

I’m a 27 year old male and very sexually active with my girlfriend. Since very young I have had a masturbation habit of twice daily. I have thoughts of masturbating casually with others and/ or in a group, Is this normal? Do people practise this? For years this has been with me.

Hi

Yes, it is normal to masturbate and it is also normal to have thoughts or fantasies of masturbating with others. These kinds of thoughts are part of a large range of normal sexual expressions. Some people practice this with others, and some people just fantasize about it.

Please leave a comment to let us know if that answers your question or if you need more information.

Health Nurse

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My boyfriend of 7 yrs revealed to ne he likes wearing womens panties and getting it anally but has never acted attracted to men. Is he secretly gay? Help!

Hi

It is difficult for me to say if you boyfriend is secretly gay.

What I can do is give you some information on sexual orientation, anal sex and fetishes.

Many men and women enjoy stimulation of the anal area.There are lots of nerve endings and it can feel good. It doesn’t mean a man is gay if they enjoy anal stimulation.

There are many ways that people express their sexual orientation and preferences, and what gives them pleasure. For example, a person may identify as heterosexual and still enjoy fantasizing about same sex encounters.

Fetishes are things that turn people on sexually.They are common, but something that people often don’t talk about.Some examples of fetishes include a foot fetish or dressing up in the opposite sex clothes.This does not mean that your partner has a fetish.You would need to talk to him to know more about how he sees it.

How we understand social norms can make it difficult for us to talk about things. If people feel they are different or unusual they may feel shame or fear rejection.

Is it possible to chat with your boyfriend about your concerns? Sometimes a good conversation can help you understand each other.

Here is a link to some information that may help with communication. The pages have some ideas about how to bring up difficult topics.You may be able to use them to talk with your partner.

 

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Health Nurse

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How effective are polyisoprene condoms compared to regular latex condoms?

Hi.

We have spent some time trying to find studies that actually compare polyisoprene condoms with other condoms. So far we haven’t found any scientific studies. We are going to continue looking into this and hope to add some information to our site.

In Canada, condoms are considered medical devices and therefore must meet standards set by Health Canada. Because polyisoprene condoms are sold in pharmacies here, it means they have been evaluated and approved for sale by Health Canda. This suggests there is enough evidence showing that they are an effective barrier for contraception and STI prevention.

We found some comments saying they are more stretchy then polyurethane condoms, but also that they are thicker. If you have a latex allergy they are definitely an option.

As with all condoms, personal preference factors into which condom works best for you.

Please leave a comment to let us know if this answers your question or if you need more info.

Health Nurse