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The penis can become erect (“straight” or “hard”) at any time, whether you are with another person or alone. Erection can be caused by sexual arousal, but not always, and it’s normal to have spontaneous erections.

Some erections are caused by varying hormone levels. For example, some people experience higher levels of testosterone in the morning and can wake-up with an erection. This type of erection is not caused by sexual stimulation, but by an increased level of the testosterone hormone. These erections are normal, and can occur at different times of the day for different people, and can also vary in frequency over an individual’s lifetime.

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It is possible that from being aroused that you actually produced more white mucous from the vagina and it just ran down to the anus, so the fluid came from the vagina instead of the anus. Could this have happened?

I have also spoken with clients who have had sex and thought that they were having vaginal sex, but when they finished realised they were having anal sex. Could this have happened? In this case the white mucous could be semen (cum) from your partner.

The other thing it could be is rectal fluid, which is mucous that lines the rectum, it helps protect the rectum and acts like a lubricant to help when we have bowel movements. This amount of mucus can increase if the area is stimulated e.g. when having anal sex. If you were having vaginal sex this can also happen, as the vaginal wall is close to the rectum and I could see how vaginal sex could stimulate the rectum and produce more rectal mucous than normal which then came out your anus.

We are always concerned that discharge from the anus could be a sign of a STI or other medical concern, but as you have seen there are other things that can cause this as well. I would recommend going to see a health professional for a checkup, you would be able to discuss your personal situation with them just to make sure your experience is not related to anything to be concerned about.

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Vaginismus is common and can be treated. There are a number of different reasons why this can happen e.g. past experiences, physical conditions, psychological concerns etc…

Like you have suggested counselling can be very beneficial, I would recommend seeing a counsellor that specializes in sexual health. If the cause of your concern is mainly psychological they would be able to work out a treatment program for you. Even if it is a physical condition that is causing the problem they would be able to offer you support during the process.

The first thing you would need to do is to see a health professional about this so that they could do an assessment to see what could be causing the problem. Visiting your family doctor would be a good start. Many cities have specialist that your doctor could refer you to for a detailed assessment and treatment plan.

We know that for many people it can be embarrassing talking to health professionals about sexual health matters. Just remember that the concern you have described is common and there are health professionals trained to deal with this.

I am not sure what area you live in, but if you are in BC Canada and would like assistance finding a health professional who can assist you, just send us a private question. All your information is confidential and we could assist with finding a health professional for you.

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The discharge that you noticed on her underwear is completely normal and occurs regularly for women, even if they are not having sex at all. 

The vagina and cervix produce fluid regularly as a house-keeping mechanism to help cleanse the vagina and prevent infections. The amount and consistency changes throughout a woman’s menstrual cycle. It’s normal for a woman to regularly have some white discharge on her underwear. I am not able to say how long the discharge occurs because every woman is different and it changes throughout her lifetime. 

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What I believe you’re describing is what is called pearly penile papules also known as Hirsuties coronae glandis. They are found on the sulcus or corona of the glans (the ridge-like base of the head of the penis or the neck of the penis). They look like small dome or thread-like projections or bumps that go around the underside of the penis head in one or more rows. The papules are completely normal, common to have and are at no risk to your health.

As sexual health practitioners, we see these a lot and they are very easy to identify. If this all sounds like what you have, you can be confident in the doctor’s assessment and reassurance. The papules shouldn’t cause any pain, dysfunction or open sores. If you have any symptoms, you could visit the doctor for that.

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The symptoms you’re describing do sound a lot like a yeast infection. In women, symptoms include vaginal itchiness, dryness, pain and increased discharge that can be thick and looks somewhat like cottage cheese. It is very common to feel discomfort in your vagina during intercourse as well as on your vulva (the outer genital area) when you have a yeast infection.

Please take a look at the information about Yeast from our A-Z Topics:

http://smartsexresource.com/topics/yeast

The main information about treatment from that page includes, “Treatment options for yeast include creams or tablets that are inserted into the vagina, creams that can be used on the skin in both men and women, and pills that can be taken by mouth. In BC, treatments can be bought at the pharmacy and a prescription is not needed.”

I would recommend trying some yeast treatment, more specifically the vaginal insert options, you can buy yourself at the pharmacy. You can also use the topical cream on your vulva (outer genital area) to relieve the itchiness and discomfort. You might find you experience some relief of your symptoms very quickly. If you do not find relief, I would encourage you to see your family doctor or visit a walk in clinic to have them assess you.

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Masturbating is normal and healthy; doing it on a daily basis is not a problem. Masturbation could become a problem if it happens so regularly that your unable to do other things in life like go to work or school, socialise with friends or family etc… Masturbation could also be a problem if it involves doing something illegal e.g. masturbating in public.

I am not sure if this is happening to you, but I have met some men who report ejaculating in their pants when they don’t want to. They have said that this was happening usually during a stress/anxiety response they found themselves in e.g. while doing an exam. This is different than when a guy has a wet dream at night. If this is happening to you it would be worth talking to a health care professional about the situation that made this happen.

In terms of general genital hygiene it’s good to wash the genitals with a mild soap and warm water each day. You have to be careful not to wash the genital too much especially with any harsh soap. With uncircumcised men you need to wash under the foreskin as well, you can just use warm water for this or some men will use a small amount of mild soap if it does not irritate them. In terms of hygiene after ejaculating it would be good to rinse with warm water or wipe the extra moisture away. Some people can develop genital rashes and conditions if the genitals are not dried properly, especially under the foreskin. 

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In some situations blood in the semen can be a sign of a more serious condition. Given this I would just recommend seeing your family doctor about what happened. They would be able to make sure there is nothing serious going on.

Metrovan Urology has a good information page on Hematospermia.

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Getting circumcised is a surgical procedure that has a number of side effects that can be really bad for your health. I would highly recommend that you see a doctor who is experienced in this procedure to do it for you.

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