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A new condom should be used every time you have sex, with each new partner, and when switching from anal to oral or vaginal/internal genital penetration. The condom should be applied before sexual contact occurs. Condoms can be used with sex toys.
The external condom is made of thin latex that fits snugly over the penis/external genitals. There is a tip at the top to hold ejaculate (cum).
Condoms made of latex or non-latex (ie nitrile, polyurethane and polyisoprene) are highly protective against STIs. Do not use condoms with the spermicide nonoxynol-9 as it can cause irritation and increase the chance of getting HIV. Lambskin or sheepskin condoms protect against pregnancy, but are not effective for preventing STIs, including HIV. Novelty condoms, such as “edible” condoms, do not offer protection against either STIs or pregnancy.
You can buy condoms at most drug stores, corner stores and grocery stores. Sexual health clinics often have free external condoms available to the public.
How to use an external condom
- Check the expiry date on the package. Be careful not to tear the condom when taking it out of the packet.
- Add a drop of water-soluble or silicone lubricant to the inside of the condom if you like.
- Check to see which way the condom rolls and put the condom on the end of the erect penis/external genitals.
- Pinch the tip of the condom to remove the air in the tip.
- Unroll the condom down to the base of the penis/external genitals.
- After intercourse, withdraw the penis/external genitals before it becomes soft; hold onto the condom to make sure that semen does not spill out.
- Slide the condom off the penis/external genitals, tie the open end in a knot and throw it in the garbage.
Condoms that fit well will feel better and are less likely to fall off or break. There are many styles and sizes of condoms, so it’s a good idea to try different ones to decide what works for you. Keep condoms in a cool, dry, dark place. Heat, light and moisture break down condoms and increase the risk of breakage.Find out what to do if a condom breaks.
The internal condom is made from synthetic nitrile, a type of material that is thinner than latex but stronger so less likely to break. It fits inside the vagina/internal genitals or inside the rectum. The internal condom is a good option for people who are sensitive or allergic to latex. It can be useful for those with a sexual partner who has difficulty maintaining erections or have soft erections. It can also be useful for those who need to rest during sex because of long sex sessions, ability, or stamina.
Reasons some people prefer the internal condom:
- It gives more STI protection than the external condom because part of the condom stays outside the body and covers more of the skin around the genitals.
- It can be put into place up to 2 hours before intercourse and it does not need to be taken out immediately after intercourse.
- It can be used for both vaginal/internal genital and anal sex, but it has not been approved for anal sex (this is considered "off label" use).
- It can be used with any type of lubrication.
- It is not affected by temperature or humidity and has a shelf life of 5 years.
Internal condoms are not widely available at drug stores or grocery stores, but are sold at some speciality sex shops. Internal condoms are more expensive than external condoms, but can be available for free at some sexual health clinics.
How to use an internal condom
There are two ways to use the internal condom. It can be put over the erect penis/external genitals before having intercourse or it can be inserted into the vagina/internal genitals or anus before intercourse.
- Find a comfortable position, lying, sitting or standing with one foot raised.
- Hold the smaller ring (at the closed end) and squeeze it between the thumb and middle finger.
- Put it into the vagina/internal genitals or anus, pushing it inside as far as possible; the outer ring will stay outside the body.
- Make sure that the penis/external genitals is directed inside the condom and not to the side of it.
- During intercourse, the outer ring will lie flat against the body when the penis/external genitals enters the vagina/internal genitals or anus.
- Soon after sex, twist the condom and gently pull it out, making sure that no ejaculate is spilled.
- Tie it in a knot and put it in the garbage.
It’s rare for internal condoms to break, but can be possible if the penis/internal genitals are pushing against the end of the condom.
Condoms and oral sex
Condoms are recommended for oral sex because some STIs, including herpes, gonorrhea, chlamydia and syphilis, are easily passed during oral sex. External condoms can be cut lengthwise and held against the vagina/external genitals or anus to make a barrier (ie a dental dam).
Flavoured external condoms are colorful latex condoms that come in a variety of flavours. They are popular for oral sex because some people do not like the taste of regular condoms.
Flavored condoms and oral sex
It is safe to use flavoured condoms for oral sex. The flavoring and colors added to these condoms are the same additives that are used in food products and are safe to swallow.
Flavored condoms and penetrative sex
The safety of using flavoured condoms for penetrative sex (like vaginal or anal sex) is not well studied. It is possible that some ingredients used in flavored condoms may cause vaginal irritation, yeast infections or bacterial vaginosis.
Some tips for pleasure and condoms
Condoms can be a regular part of your sexual life and can also prevent STIs and pregnancy. Condoms come in different styles and textures to increase sensation and pleasure. It can be something you can be creative with. For example, condoms can be part of foreplay when you have partners put it on or in you. Studies show that with regular use, you will notice the condom less and the pleasure more. Keep condoms nearby so that they are easy to use when you need them.
Sometimes, people experience losing erections or not being able to ejaculate when using external condoms. Here are some things you can try:
- Masturbate with a condom on to get used to the sensation.
- Masturbate until close to ejaculation (cumming), then put the condom on and finish.
- Do all the things you like to do sexually, but with a condom on; focus on what feels good.
- Use water-soluble lubricant (lube) on the inside and outside to improve sensation.
- Use an internal condom.